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1 亚当一看见夏娃就脱口作诗,这个令人印象深刻的举动表明此事非同小可,也表明亚当看见夏娃的时候内心反应多么强烈。他的话很难翻译。从字面上看,他说的是:“这……终于!”英文新国际版只是译作:“现在!”新标准修订版(NRSV)译得更妥帖:“终于——这就是我骨中之骨,肉中之肉!”(创2
:23)
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2 统计数字引自W.Bradford Wilcox编的The State of Our Unions
:Marriage in America,2009(The National Marriage Project,University of Virginia),以及The Marriage Index
:A Proposal to Establish Leading Marriage Indicators(Institute for American Values and the National Center on African American Marriages and Parenting,2009)。这两份报告可见www.stateofourunions.org and www.americanvalues.org(Wilcox),和www.hamptonu.edu/ncaamp(American Values)。
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3 1970年时首次婚姻保持完整的家庭达到77%,而今天这个数字仅为61%(The Marriage Index,5)。换句话说,今天所有结婚的夫妇中,有大约45%(原书如此)最终分居或离异(The State of Our Unions,78)。
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4 The Marriage Index,5.
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5 “The Decline of Marriage and the Rise of New Families”(Pew Research Center Report,November 18,2010).可见http://pewsocialtrends.org/2010/11/18/the-decline-of-marriage-and-riseof-new-families/2/。
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6 Wilcox,The State of Our Unions,84.
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7 Mindy E.Scott,et al.,“Young Adult Attitudes about Relationships and Marriage
:Times May Have Changed,but Expectations Remain High,”inChild Trends
:Research Brief(Publication
#2009 30,July 2009).见前页。可见www.childtrends.org/Files/Child_Trends-2009_07_08_RB_YoungAdultAttitudes.pdf.
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8 David Popenoe and Barbara Dafoe Whitehead,The State of Our Unions
:2002—Why Men Won’t Commit(National Marriage Project),11.
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9 David Popenoe and Barbara Dafoe Whitehead,The State of Our Unions
:2002—Why Men Won’t Commit(National Marriage Project),85。
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10 David Popenoe and Barbara Dafoe Whitehead,The State of Our Unions
:2002—Why Men Won’t Commit(National Marriage Project)。婚前同居的人,最终离婚的概率高于婚前未同居的人。然而,对于这种现象的原因,人们并没有共识。有些人相信,同居的经历使人养成坏习惯,这些坏习惯在二人结婚之后导致关系恶化。有些人认为,选择婚前同居的人与选择婚前守贞的人有不同的性格和行为特征,是这些原有的特征而非同居行为本身导致后期的分手。尽管这些理论各有侧重,但它们的结论是一致的。婚前同居与婚姻关系不牢固,二者具有相关性。无论同居的原因是什么,希望同居和选择同居都会降低将来婚姻牢固的可能性。
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11 “Your Chances of Divorce May Be Much Lower than You Think,”in Wilcox,The State of Our Unions,2009,80.
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12 Popenoe,The State of Our Unions,7.男人同居而不结婚的十个理由当中,有一个是“想有了自己的房子以后再娶妻”。
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13 “The Surprising Economic Benefits of Marriage,”in Wilcox,The State of Our Unions,86.
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14 “The Surprising Economic Benefits of Marriage,”in Wilcox,The State of Our Unions87。
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15 http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090823064213AAoKwvq.
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16 Adam Sternburgh,“A Brutally Candid Oral History of Breaking Up,”New York Times Magazine(March 11,2011).
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17 Adam Sternburgh,“A Brutally Candid Oral History of Breaking Up,”New York Times Magazine(March 11,2011).
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18 Linda Waite,et al.,Does Divorce Make People Happy?
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Findings from a Study of Unhappy Marriages(American Values Institute,2002).可见www.americanvalues.org/UnhappyMarriages.pdf。
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19 Linda J.Waite说:“这份报告指出,根据十二个独立的心理幸福指标中的任何一个来衡量,平均而言,那些婚姻不美满而离婚的成年人,都不比那些婚姻不美满但没有离婚的成年人更幸福。离婚并不会减少各种抑郁症状,也不会提高自尊或增加权利感。即便去掉种族、年龄、性别和收入等因素之后,也是如此。这说明,离婚的益处被夸大了。”摘自Does Divorce Make People Happy?的出版声明,可见www.americanvalues.org/html/r-unhappy ii.html。_
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20 “The Decline of Marriage”(2010 Pew Center report).报告总结说,已婚夫妇有84%对婚姻生活感到满意,与之相比,同居者对生活感到满意的比例是71%,独身者是66%,离婚或分居者是50%。
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21 Wilcox,The State of Our Unions,101.
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22 见“Teen Attitudes about Marriage and Family,”in Wilcox,The State of Our Unions,113。然而,令人意外的是,在经过多年之后,认为婚前同居是“好主意”的青少年人数开始下降。报告总结认为,“男孩和女孩都比过去更接受婚姻之外的生活方式,尤其是未婚生子,尽管最近的数据表明,接受未婚同居的人数出现了令人意外的下降。”(112页)
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23 John Witte,Jr.,From Sacrament to Contract
:Marriage,Religion,and Law in the Western Tradition(Louisville
:John Knox Press,1997),209.
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24 见其文章“God’s Joust,God’s Justice
:An Illustration from the History of Marriage Law,”inChristian Perspectives on Legal Thought,ed.M.McConnell(New Haven
:Yale University Press,2001),406ff。
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